Let’s shift these parenting paradigms for good.
Present day proverbs about motherhood span from it being, “the most important job in the world,” to, “only ever full of joy and love,” and tell mothers to, “put the child above all else.”
I’m here to call bullshit on those old adages.
They set mothers up for burnout and disappointment, and they set children up to be entitled and self-centered.
Here’s what I propose instead:
The relationship you have with your self
defines the relationship you have with your child.
Parenting is first and foremost about how you parent yourself.
How do you engage with your emotions? Are your core values really your own, or did you adopt them decades ago without question? What do you do when you are feeling overwhelmed? How do you take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually? When do you set boundaries (do you even believe you’re allowed to)? How do you maintain them?
These are the kinds of questions that will lead you back to you.
You were a self before you became a mother.
When you embody that awareness,
you will raise a child who is aligned in their own self, too.